Meet and Miss


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When we think of missing someone we usually rationalize our feelings of missing that special person based on a relationship that we’ve both established over a period of time. We refer to that relationship in terms of a “connection” – a bond we’ve formed together.  The connection may be romantic, businesslike, or simply a social one.  But in nearly every instance, the connection is explainable and describable. Our missing feelings are based on appreciating that special person for who we understand them to be and desiring to share more experiences together.

But when we miss someone we’ve just met, a phenomenon I call, “Meet and Miss,” a linked relationship history doesn’t exist. Yet, our depth of missing that special person is real. We find upon leaving the person we’ve just met we recall the way that person affected us. We like the way we feel, and authentically want more.  We yearn for a greater experience to get to know that person. Often our survival instincts try to block our new “meet and miss” feelings to protect against possible rejection, or memory recall of past unpleasant relationships.

But for that special person we met and miss we overcome our barriers and fears and focus on the happy things they did and said that made us feel whole and allowed ourselves to be… In their presence we felt relief against life’s stresses… no deception, no labeling, no judgements – just honest healthy appreciation of who we are.

As with any type of bonding, the trust hormone, oxytocin plays a role.  Oxytocin is secreted by the posterior lobe of our pituitary gland, a pea-sized structure at the base of our brain. Sometimes known as the “cuddle hormone” Oxytocin’s release is limited by stress and activated by feelings of belonging. It seems that those special folks that cross our paths and we meet and miss have greatly increased our oxytocin release by briefly removing the burden of stress from our lives.

When it comes to the “Meet and Miss” phenomenon, it’s a Funny Feeling to know the rare individual that causes us to miss them after one encounter no matter how BRIEF…. Has done so because they’ve touched our essence and not labeled our persona outside or UNDERNEATH…

Copyright 2022 Alan P. Xenakis, MD, Doc X MD and Audra RN 180 Funny Feelings©

When it comes to the “Meet and Miss” phenomenon, it’s a Funny Feeling to know the rare individual that causes us to miss them after one encounter no matter how BRIEF…. Has done so because they’ve touched our essence and not labeled our persona outside or UNDERNEATH…